Sorry, i am just an average person trying to be just a little bit above average by learning chess but it is too difficuilt.
Hope you can understand and relate in a way . I am so honest here without an ego or pretentions talking here. i don't know how to learn openings ,too lazy setup the board every time for diff diagrams,and when i read any material,even thouh i understand it,can't transfer it to the board. NO guts to play offensive plays when i have the opportuinity to do so,too passive and feel so bad about myself every time i lose,can't smile in defeat or feel like this is an opportunity to learn anything new...when i play against cpu it is only a matter of time before my position colapses.
So i took away everything that reminds me of chess from my room and unistalled apps on my tablet.
CHess obviously isn't a game for me, i learn really hard chess trlated stuff, find no profound enjoyment playing it,i feel scared stressed long after the game whether i won or lost.shy away from playing OTB games against stronger opponents...
This is exactly why chess is the game for everyone. If you can't face your demons in chess, you will be even weaker facing them in life.
@SasaTalpes : maybe you just need to take distance from chess for some time. There is no pleasure in any activity that makes us doubt or suffer, especially for what is just a game. Hope it won't last. Just come back when you really want to.
I have quit chess many times. Sometimes it can be healthy to take a break. After some time I usually miss it. Chess is supposed to be fun and not a struggle.
Nobody needs chess in his life. You're probably doing the right thing if you feel so bad when you play. People are different and they are fit for different things. You're not so good at chess? It means nothing; you can be good at a thousand other things.
You are giving up, and it's okay if it's something that you don't really care or think it's not going to be good for your life. But if it's the other way around, you shouldn't.
Most of the time what makes us not quit is enjoying what we do, and this should be the case with chess, which it's only a game, but sometimes people takes it too seriously, as if their pride and intelligence are on the table. Try to do some tactics training, maybe 20 minutes a day, and if you are consistent, believe me, your game will improve a lot over time, and you will enjoy it a lot more. I don't know if sometime you played a videogame that required plenty of skill, and at first you probably were really frustrated that other people defeated you with ease. But you kept playing because you had fun with it, and over time, you became really good at it, maybe even defeating the best players. I think the same happens here, and with many other activities that requires a skill to be developed, like maths, programming, etc. The really difficult thing in my opinion, it's not to quit.
Chess is one of those activities that to actually become relatively good at it, you have to spend a lot of time, and i'm not saying 4h a day, but maybe 30m a day. But for every person is going to be different.
If drink is the curse of the working classes and work the curse of the drinking classes then chess ist the curse of the thinking classes. (John J. Ross)
You need to examine why you play chess. If it's just to win every game, then you will feel traumatised when you lose.
If you play because you enjoy the challenge, then you will have a better appreciation of the game with the variety of challenges that face you during the game.
The frustration you are feeling is usually caused by expecting too much, from yourself.
Your blitz rating is very strong but you don't have a classical rating. This suggests that you are a man in a hurry with little patience.
Don't give up. Just adjust to your capabilities and set reasonable goals for yourself.
HEY! HAVE FUN! :-)
Maybe S. Tarrasch is even more to the point:
"Chess is a form of intellectual productiveness, therein lies, its peculiar charm. Intellectual productiveness is one of the greatest joys -if not the greatest one- of human existence. It is not everyone who can write a play, or build a bridge, or even make a good joke. But in chess everyone can, everyone must, be intellectually productive and so can share in this select delight. I have always a slight feeling of pity for the man who has no knowledge of chess, just as I would pity for the man who has no knowledge of love. Chess, like love, like music, has the power to make men happy."
Forget it! You can quite chess anytime, but chess can't quite you nevermore.
